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A Note from Mx. Queen

Cultivating Our Capacity for Pleasure

Using the 3 Keys to Embodied Intelligence: Emotional, Somatic, and Erotic

As we know, rest has been removed by colonialism and capitalism and heavily commodified. Rest also been stripped of its sensuality, its spirituality, its erotic intelligence—and reduced to something we earn only after exhaustion. As I shared in my Substack article on The Erotic Intelligence of Rest: "The cultural pressure to produce -even the performance of success or being unbothered is relentless—and it’s killing our erotic vitality."

But your erotic self knows better. Your body knows that rest is not a reward for productivity; it is a prerequisite for aliveness. How does your erotic self know?

It knows because your erotic needs are tended to.

What Are the 6 Erotic Needs of the Erotic Self?

The 6 Erotic Needs of the Erotic Self include:

Embodied Safety-I feel emotionally and physically safe enough to explore my erotic self.
Erotic Presence- I am able to stay present and connected to my body during erotic experiences.
Radical Self-Permission- I feel permission to want what I want without shame or guilt.
Erotic Expression- I have safe ways to express my erotic self (movement, voice, play, art).
Intimate Connections -I feel erotically connected to myself and/or others.
Erotic Expansion- I feel like I’m growing or transforming in my erotic healing journey.

For over the last 23 years, I have supported trauma survivors, social work and counseling interns, helping and healing professionals, and relationships reconnected to safety, trust, intimacy, pleasure, & wholeness. Using the erotic, my integrative somatic practice and erospiritual approach to therapy, teaching, healing, and holding space has evolved from individual healing to include curating and facilitating relationship and intimacy repair and healing. My practice is both/and not either/or as I fundamentally know and believe that relationship types of solo, intimate, healing, and kinship need each other to embodied pleasure and sustain the ability to thrive.

The areas of my specialty include:

Integrative Somatic Healing & Erospirituality
Erotic Confidence & Feeling Desirable
Sexual Distress of Shame, Anxiety, & Guilt
Sexual Performance Anxiety,
Low or Incompatible Libido
Queer/LGBTQAI+ and Non-Queer/Heterosexual Sexualities
Menopausal-Impacted Sexuality
PTSD & Post-Traumatic Growth
Marginalized Identities & Power
Intimacy Support with a Kink-Aware Knowledge-Base
Non-Monogamy & Monogamy Relationships
Infidelity-based Relationship Repair & Healing

Healing The Erotic Self is healing the WHOLE-Self.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

1) Is Healing the Erotic Self (HTES) only about sex?

No. It includes the sexual self but also includes our spiritual and somatic selves. HTES is about restoring your capacity for pleasure, your relationship to desire, safety, and embodied truth—so you can live with more wholeness and less self-abandonment. Sessions are virtual.

2) Is this trauma-informed?

Yes. This work is evidence-based, trauma-informed, and designed to support the nervous-system and one's dignity. You won’t be pushed into disclosure to “prove” your pain or perform your healing.

3) Can helping and healthcare professionals do this work too?

Absolutely, you can't bring your clients out of a place you haven't been. Many of the people who find me are professionals who are also survivors. You deserve care that restores you—not just tools you use on others. I also partner with organizations to deliver trauma-informed, consent-forward trainings that cultivate capacity for compassion, strengthen embodied boundaries, communication, and culturally affirming care. My work integrates Erospirituality, embodied intelligence, and integrative somatic healing—so leadership and their teams can support themselves and those they serve and remain person-centered in their healing and service approaches.

4) Where should I start?

a. If you want a grounded entry point: start with the Healing the Erotic Self Workbook.

b. If you want ongoing practice and replenishment: the Erotic Living course is a beautiful next step.

c. If you are ready to dive deeper, schedule a consultation and let's see how we can work 1:1. Email me at MxQueen@Erospirituality.com

d. If you are looking to bring a Sexuality and Somatics Professional Learning Series or SHIFT Somatic Healing Session to your organization, email me at Support@LenaQueen.com.

e. For media inquires, please email me at Support@LenQueen.com.

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